I want to say: Every trust planted today will pay you back exponentially in the future —

I previously read a book called "Never Eat Alone," and every time I go out, it makes me aware of the content of the book, so I want to share it with my sister first:

There are several directions that I strongly agree with:

1️⃣Trust Foundation:

Every trust you plant today will pay you back exponentially in the future: it means that truly strong relationships are built before you need them. Time reveals a person's heart; reliability is not what you say, but what others see you do. Relationships between people are slowly built up over time.
On the contrary, if you have done unreliable things and planted seeds on others, it may be very difficult to obtain any resources from them again.

I once again have a deeper understanding and realization of the need to treat others sincerely.

2️⃣ Proactive connection instead of passive waiting:

Many people's social mentality is "if fate allows, I will meet friends." But there is a saying by the author that I strongly agree with: opportunities are created by oneself, and you must take the initiative to approach others. Taking the initiative means: having the courage to speak up, to invite, to organize events, and to approach those you admire.
Many people are afraid to approach successful individuals, and many even hesitate to ask others for help. In fact, it is in human nature to be willing to help others. Once proactive connection becomes a skill, you will become incredibly formidable.
I built the community to provide everyone with a proactive connection platform, which is more useful than wealth codes.

3️⃣Give first, then take.

Farage's motto: "Be a giver, not a taker."
The types given include:
Information (Insights, Resources)
Emotions (Empathy, Support)
Trust (unconditional goodwill)
Opportunities (Referrals, Cooperation)

The key is not the return, but rather: to make yourself someone that others truly want to remember. And this key factor requires meeting in person; emotions and trust are quite intuitive, and it's hard to generate them if you cannot meet the person.
So, the meaning of not dining alone is also here.

In summary, each outing has deepened my understanding of this book, making friends through value, creating a future through trust, and treating others with sincerity.

And I will make others better by knowing me, and I will continue to grow stronger.

So I am grateful for every time I go out, for the many friends I actively meet and who are willing to meet me. Most of the time, the help you give me is much more than what I give you!

🧐Let others become better by knowing you, and you will continue to grow stronger!

Encourage everyone to take the first step, encourage everyone to be brave in socializing, they will bravely take the first step!

I think this is certainly a good thing, and it reflects a certain shift in thinking: "I need to become stronger → So I need to befriend the strong."

I am very afraid that this logic will lead to misunderstandings, so I still want to explain the essence of this logic:

1️⃣ Request or Attract: You actually don't need to socialize!

The weak actively approach the strong to take.
Strong attracts strong, it's a magnetic field.

The underlying truth of interpersonal relationships is never: who do I know;
But: Will others' recognition of you improve?

So from this perspective, you don't need to consciously socialize; you will naturally be invited, remembered, and connected.

So the first step is not to go out focusing on socializing, but to think about your own strengths and the value you can create!

2️⃣ True socializing is essentially self-cultivation:

How should we view the "compound interest of relationships"? Especially for newcomers in the industry, as most knowledge recipients, how can we give back value in a resource-limited situation and achieve compound interest in the long-term development of relationships?

This is actually a problem for many people, as many newcomers to the industry or friends who have just graduated from university seem to feel that they have little value, which leads them to underestimate themselves.

My reply is: trustworthy, reliable, and compoundable; sometimes it's only related to character, not ability. Additionally, every time you make it easy for others, you're adding to the relationship.

Can you understand? What I feel most deeply is that value is not innate, nor is it given by others; value comes from what you are willing to bear for the world.

The key to trust is reliability. Li Xiaolei said that reliability means being predictable. If a person's historical behavior is stable and has certain principles and boundaries, then they are predictable. Therefore, it is very important to be a person with your own principles, rather than changing due to relationships and interests.

So did you see: being reliable is the greatest value! Many people think of "value" as something lofty: it must be about making big money, having a title, or having resources.

In fact, the initial form of value is very simple: when you can provide insights, give time and goodwill, bring resources, inspiration, or emotional value, you are making others better because they know you.

In my logic: if you are getting better, then you are already very valuable, and if it were me, I would be willing to help you out!

Isn't that enough?

A most brutal truth, yet also the gentlest answer for everyone: You feel you have no value because you haven't started contributing value. True value is not just being "needed"; it also includes "making others better and easier."

3️⃣Written at the end:

The purpose of writing this is to hope that everyone can understand that I encourage people to go out and bravely connect with themselves, but at the same time, I also encourage everyone to understand this sentence: building connections is actually about building oneself!

Networking is not an external resource, but a reflection of your own value; the kind of person you are determines the kind of people you can connect with!

The stronger you are, the more the world is willing to approach you. The brighter you shine, the more light will gather.

Real and effective relationships are those where both parties are willing to bet on each other, not those you can exploit, but those you can grow stronger with together.