2026-01-08 15:36:39

Did you know? There are essentially only 3 "tickets" for adults to enter into a relationship:

1. Compensatory infatuation

You see in the other person the part of yourself that is missing: if you are insecure, they shine; if you are conservative, they are wild. You think you are in love with them, but actually you want to possess them to heal the incomplete self.

2. Emotional value exchange

Some people look average but are very popular because they can provide "stability charm." In a life full of uncertainties, this "stability" is the greatest attraction.

3. Social attribute compatibility

Matching family backgrounds, resource complementarity, genetic improvement. This is not called love; it's called a "life risk partner."

Most people's pain lies in: entering with the mindset of type 1, but expecting interaction of type 2, and ultimately dying in the game of type 3.

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