To be a person, be modest and reserved, speak less - a lifetime in the crypto world

We learn to speak in three years,

but we must spend a lifetime learning to keep silent!

As children, we learn to babble,

and at this stage, speaking more is very important,

because it helps develop our sense of language,

allowing us to speak as fluently as adults as soon as possible.

But when we grow up,

we must speak less,

and be very careful when we do speak,

otherwise,

not only will it bring us no benefit,

but it may also cause trouble for you.

Those who rarely speak to others,

and only speak up at critical moments,

are often reserved and restrained,

this is a principle of being a person,

not offending others,

and not bringing trouble upon oneself.

1. Speak less in front of leaders

Some people always think that showing off in front of their leaders and chatting more will help their talents be recognized.

Little do they know,

if the leader is not familiar with you,

every word you say in front of them will make them feel you are disrespecting the leader.

Especially when you are dining at the same table,

if the leader says something,

you immediately respond with a long explanation,

these thoughtless words,

will make others think you are someone who cannot handle affairs.

Sometimes, the leader may even think you are stealing their spotlight,

and remember you as a not-so-good person,

which will not help your future career,

but may cause some harm.

Therefore,

in front of the leader,

be cautious with your words and actions.

You must understand that they are the ones managing you,

so if you talk too much at this time,

they may be dissatisfied,

especially at banquets,

you must give the other party enough face.

On the other hand,

when you speak so much in front of the leader,

they will also understand what kind of person you are,

and if one day you encounter some issues,

the leader will have a good grasp of you,

because they know your boundaries,

and understand your bottom line.

So,

don’t just try to show off,

sometimes less is more than more.

2. Minimize commenting on colleagues’ disputes

Some colleagues always comment on others,

regardless of whether they are close or distant,

always commenting on others’ right and wrong.

When starting work,

there is often such a person in the office,

idling around all day,

commenting on others’ affairs,

regardless of whether others are right or wrong, they always have something to say.

Generally,

this person speaks mostly negatively about others,

and there are usually no major issues between the two,

but this person stokes conflicts,

causing the relationship between the two to become strained,

and finally, they just wait to see the joke.

When an adult does this,

everyone sees it,

but keeps it in mind,

although this person appears to have many friends,

and talks a lot with many people,

but if one day they encounter trouble,

they will find no one behind them.

When you comment on colleagues’ disputes,

every word you say might offend someone,

everyone has their own thoughts,

perhaps from your perspective,

what you say seems proper and moderate,

but others may not see it that way,

and may think you are a very bad person.

Of course,

some people are indeed very bad,

deliberately nitpicking,

criticizing others’ clothing or appearance,

when someone speaks like this,

others will hold a grudge against you.

3. Be more careful in front of children

As parents,

we must pay more attention in front of our children,

not only to our words and actions in front of our own parents,

but also in raising our children,

our words and deeds are very important.

Some parents are not on good terms,

and one of them always complains about the other’s faults to their children.

When I was young,

my mother often complained about my father in front of me,

all kinds of bad things.

At that time, I thought my dad was quite good,

but my mother always thought he was bad,

later, a small conflict occurred,

and my mother’s attitude toward my dad worsened,

she spoke even more harshly in front of me.

As a child, I lacked the ability to discern right from wrong,

and always thought my mother was right,

at that time, I thought men were all bad,

so much so that when I grew up, I dared not fall in love,

nor dared to marry someone,

because I was afraid that after marriage,

facing trivial matters every day,

we would argue endlessly over petty issues.

The influence of parents’ words and actions on children,

is truly immeasurable.

It might even ruin a child’s entire life,

I am a prime example of this.

Therefore, in front of your own children, you must watch your words,

don’t think that criticizing your partner in front of your children

is just punishing your partner,

in fact,

you are punishing your children.

On the other hand,

when children grow up and gain the ability to distinguish right from wrong,

they will also see you as a bad person,

so this is also a form of punishment for you.

Don’t think children don’t understand anything,

in fact, children remember things very easily,

every move of their parents leaves an indelible impression,

which can influence their entire life path.

4. Gossip less behind people’s backs

Although you like to be others’ mentor,

always maintaining a superior attitude when others face issues,

and trying to give advice.

Some people, when encountering problems,

even if it’s not their own matter,

still talk behind others’ backs,

commenting on the situation.

These people always think they are very clever,

seeing through what others do not,

and revealing these thoughts,

to make themselves seem different from others.

In fact,

sometimes others do see through these things,

so they don’t talk behind others’ backs,

but because they see through it,

and are more reserved,

they choose not to say anything.

Such people are often very smart,

waiting for you to say these things,

and when asked about it,

they will say it was you who said it,

and all the blame will fall on you.

Today’s world has no fools,

many people are capable and resourceful.

So, gossip less behind others’ backs,

it’s a way to protect yourself,

even if you see through something,

you must not reveal it,

because everyone sees it,

just some people are smarter than you.

The adult world is about knowing when to be wise and when to be muddle-headed,

the words you speak behind others’ backs,

you think they will never be leaked,

but the person you speak to may not keep your secret.

Moreover,

you should know,

if that person is only an acquaintance,

but they tell you these things,

you should be aware that they might have ulterior motives.

Be careful with your words,

sometimes it’s good to be cautious,

it’s a good thing for yourself.

Some people, although they haven’t done anything wrong,

talk too much,

and in the end, their consequences are not good.